How Can You Find Friends?

 (leaving your house) + (pursuing your interests) = relationships

A friend of mine recently blogged about how he was to "Stop looking for friends (i'm sure they will come in due time)"

And that got me thinking about how similar friendships and love are. Both happen when they happen.  One can create circumstances to make it easier to find but ultimately fate holds controls the outcome of our actions.

I found my best friend when I found him. I did not seek out a best friend, I actually had one--but he arose in an unexpected circumstance and it just happened.

The same with love. You can put yourself on personals site and have some great pictures made. But it is still up to the fickle finger of fate if and when someone you can love finds you.

So what to do? Make the first move. Take the initiative. Get out there. Turn off the TV and the laptop and walk out the door. Immerse yourself in events and do for others. Resist going home and accept invitations when they come. No invitations? Invite someone to coffee or drinks or bowling or an antique show. Get out there and live...and the friends, and possibly even love, will follow.

Read Damien's blog here.