Change is really hard. If someone tells you it is not, I suggest you compliment them on the color they are wearing and ask them how work is going. Don’t believe them. Change is really hard.
And happily, my job is to help people move from one state of being to another.--to move from who they are to who they want to be. And in the words of one of my mentors, that process is simple. Not easy, but simple. And accepting that real change--significant transitions--are hard to achieve is many times the first step in the journey.
By acknowledging change is hard, your feeling about the tasks at hand will begin to alter. No need to beat yourself up because you didn’t magically transform in a week, or six weeks, or a year. Recognize that change is made of many steps, pick a discrete step and see what happens. If you complete the task…congrats! Give yourself a reward. And if you don’t, analyze what kept you from following through, learn from the mistakes and do it again. The past is only valuable in that we can learn from our errors and improve our performance.
So what do you want to do? Is it reasonable? Is it measureable? If so, start today!
David Ezell is offering free introductory classes for people who want to transition their relationships, their bodies or their ability to manage depression and anxiety holistically. Just click the link and register, as space is VERY LIMITED.
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