On the Outside Looking In

(no win situations) = trouble

The Maine decision has come and gone and voters have decided that not everyone in their fair state is equal. As has happened thirty times before, a targeted minority, homosexuals men and women, has been denied their civil rights by a state's electorate.

My whole life people have told me how bad the gay lifestyle is. Growing up I had it explained to me that because homos won't not settle down and have kids, they can "never understand being an adult." Since gays won't act like adults, the logic went, they are doomed to a life of loneliness and misery.

Happily as I grew into adulthood a different scenario came onto the scene--the gay marriage movement. "Wow," I thought, "this will be an opportunity for gay people to be what most people said could not be--real adults, with responsibilities to a spouse, children and a mortgage."

How foolish I was. For the same people who complained about queers tricking all night and not settling down WOULD NOT ALLOW HOMOS THE SIMPLE ABILITY TO DO SO. The had created a room with no windows and no doors. Queers were damned for not being "adult" and damned for wanting to be one.

No win situations can create anger, depression anxiety and a variety of other emotions as well. I wonder what the end result of denying a minority of tax-paying adults the right to marry will create in the long run?

Unsubscribing

"Keep your friends close and your enemies closer" goes the old adage. That was what I had in my head when I decided to subscribe to the NARTH newsletter a year or so ago.

For those of you who don't know, NARTH is the organization that tells sad parents and unhappy sexual minorities that they can change their sexuality if they try hard. It's silly. It's anti-scientific. And it's ethically wrong to tell people this, as a mountain of scientific data is proving time and again that sexuality is DNA-based, not a choice.

But every time one of their updates would appear in my in-box--a conference, one more workbook on how to teach boys to catch balls or change their own oil, another DVD for distraught parents--I would throw it away without reading it. Because not only is are these beliefs bullshit but they do damage to people as well.

These people and their propaganda make their victims feel that parts of their make up that is fixed is not. And that causes depression and anxiety in mild cases and self-hatred and suicide in the extreme.

So I just unsubscribed. A friendly pop-up box said:

We are sorry to see you go!

Please take a moment to tell us why you chose to unsubscribe.

I thought for a moment and wrote:

Because you are opportunists who cash in on other people's misery.

My Letter to Obama: Why Sir Are You a Bigot?

I just skimmed our new president's revised positions for sexual minority clients. And after reading it, I have made a decision to write our president and ask him how he, a man of letters and a scholar of the law, can knowingly support the denial of marriage to same sex couples.

I know the negative consequences prejudice has on people, and I can't sit by without challenging his clearly prejudicial position with regard to Americans who are not heterosexual.

Here is my letter:

Dear President Obama,

First, congratulations on becoming the new president of the United States. I saw a photograph of you at your desk your first day at work, and even though you were making major decisions on a variety of issues, your desktop was totally clear. I hope that reflects the mind behind it, as we need someone with a clear vision in the office.

Which leads me to the reason I am writing this letter. I want to better understand your position on same-sex marriage. I have seen stories reporting your prejudicial view on same-sex marriage before, and your website confirms that such is the case;

President Obama supports full civil unions that give same-sex couples legal rights and privileges equal to those of married couples.

Why do those of us who were born sexually different deserve separate but equal treatment under the law? How can you, a man who has dealt with prejudice his entire life, support anything less that full rights for all adults who are citizens of the United States? Mr. Obama, why sir are you a bigot when it comes to sexuality?

I respectfully wait your reply and wish you the best in the days to come.

David Ezell

As soon as I get a reply, I will post it here...

Happy Wednesday one and all.